Monday, December 29, 2008

50 Means Not Having to Color Within the Lines Anymore


At 7:30 a.m., both kids were still asleep. Mike and I got dressed and took a leisurely walk along the grounds of the Turtle Bay resort. He slipped into his flip flops while I laced up my tennis shoes. Half an hour in, he noticed that the little rubber post separating his big toe from the other four toes was beginning to irritate his foot. Mike said that his foot was irritable which launched us into a discussion about the difference between "being irritable," "being irritated," and "being irritating."

"The little post is irritating your foot. Your foot is irritated which makes you irritable," I explained.

I realized at that point that as we get older, we get more creative with our language. We see the relationships between different words, find new ways to use old words. We make connections between people--introduce kindred spirits to one another. We become more flexible.

For a girl whose idea of the perfect gift was a new 64-crayon box of crayolas, this was a very freeing concept! I realized that I spent the first 50 years of my life compliantly coloring within the lines; living by the rules; doing whatever was asked of me. Now I realize that I can step out and explore my creativity, fearlessly. I don't have to color within the lines anymore!! I don't even have to use crayola crayons!

Sunday, December 28, 2008

Tonia, the CPU


I read the 50th birthday book Mike had created for me in the Palm Terrace grill at the Turtle Bay resort. Many of the submittals of advice from my friends highlighted their values and issues. Others recounted funny stories our of time together. In many cases, they commented on my boundless energy and ability to multi-task.

Mike and I reflected on this a moment. He said he had compared notes with Connie on how much work high school, college and grad school were. I remarked that all three periods were fun for me yet intense--not necessarily too much work to handle--just muscle through finals week. Put your head down and plow through it.

"I always think of you as a CPU," said Mike. You are an incredibly efficient processor, "But don't retain much."

He's absolutely right. I enjoy doing, working, processing. I have to empty my memory stores so I can take on and organize the next project. When I am in "work" mode, I am like a machine.

For my next 50 years:
* I want to learn how to relax when I work.
* I want to say, "It's OK to get distracted." I just have to leave myself more time to get it done.
* I want to spend more time with friends.
* I want to just play with my family.

I think I'm through working. Now I will truly learn and play.

Travel Angels Work Overtime in Hawaii

Mike and I were enjoying the brunch buffet at the Turtle Bay resort--a stark contrast to our conditions 7 hours ago. Our family had arrived at 3 a.m., braving wind, rain and no electricity, after a nearly 12-hour ordeal caused by delayed departures and an all-island blackout of Oahu which shutdown the United terminal at HNL. Our already-late plane, had been diverted to Maui for refueling and further information about when the United terminal at HNL would re-open. About 300 of us, sat captive on the plane, at the Maui airport--unable to even stretch our legs while we waited indefinitely. Two hours later, we were in the air, Oahu-bound.

Our arrival around 12:30 a.m. showed us a very different side of Honolulu. Normally greeted by sunshine, warm trade winds and smiling people, this time we were met by sheets of rain and inhospitable darkness. We walked through dark and spooky corridors to get to the United baggage claim carousel. Lines of people waited in the dark on the median, waiting to hail a cab which were far and few between. Mike had the forethought to find the Alamo car rental counter and stalled the last shuttle for the night. It was 12:58 am. The shuttles stop at 1:00 a.m.

When we arrived at the Alamo rental office, we found a makeshift camping lantern lighting up the counter area. Extension cords snaked into the women's room to juice up the temporary lighting positioned there. Alamo had no cars to rent us. Since all outbound flights were cancelled, departing tourists stayed in their hotels an extra day, or at the very least, kept their cars and didn't return them. Alamo promised us that they would reimburse our cab ride to our hotel and deliver us a car the next day. They also drove the shuttle to Waikiki to drop off their last load of car renters at their hotels, including Sayaka Arai, the young Japanese visitor from Vancouver whom Karina had befriended on the flight.

After an hour long cab ride, we arrived at Turtle Bay aroudn 2:30 a.m. Their lobby was well-lit but the registration counter was dark. The poor night manager stood in the shadows, trying to find our reservation. Thy had us down as a "no show" even though Mike had called from Maui to inform them that we would be late. After about 30 minutes of discussion and manager over-rides, we were assigned rm 263. By 3:01 a.m. we were all sound asleep.

At breakfast the next morning, Mike and I remarked how lucky we actually were. Driving a rental car for an hour along dark roads, against sheets of rain and poor visibility would have been very stressful for Mike and me. We wouldn't even know if we were lost until it was too late! News reports the next morning interviewed families who spent the night on the cold, stone floors at the HNL airport. United said that flight cancellations due to power outages were not their fault and they wouldn't pay for any hotels. Our travel angels were with us the entire way. We are so blessed!

Sunday, December 14, 2008

Ready for Launch

Saturday afternoon, I found a skinny envelope in our mailbox. It was addressed to Karina, from Georgetown University. She had applied early to Georgetown in November. This was the moment we had all been waiting for...

Mike was upstairs. Mason and I were at our respective laptops on the kitchen island. I handed the envelope to Karina. She said a quiet prayer, opened the envelope and proceeded to scream, "eeeeeeeeeeee"...Mason described it as a high pitched frequency usually reserved for bats, dolphins and whales. Karina's smile spread from ear to ear. Mike came running downstairs. She ran around hugging everyone.

The letter started, "It brings me great pleasure to inform you that the Committee on Admissions has voted to accept your application to Georgetown University. I am happy to offer you a place in the first year class for the Fall of 2009."

We celebrated with champagne, then finished with a chocolate malt at Fenton's, the home of many of happiest moments. What a day!

The giddiness is a lot like finding out the guy you have a crush on also has a crush on you. Pretty cool. I'm so happy for Karina, and so proud of her too. She's ready for launch.

A Little Dab Will Do Ya...

I didn't know Brylcreem, the men's hair grooming product was still around until Thursday morning, when Mike asked me to find 12 tubes for Victor Fung. My mission, if I was to accept it, was to find the travel size tubes for Mike so he could courier them back to Hong Kong on Sunday. I realized that meant I had to get them quick-shipped to me by Friday so they'd be in hand for Mike's flight Sunday night. Any shipment arriving Monday would be too late.

I dutifully set aside my three projects for the day and began researching this dinosaur from the 50's. Consisting of mineral oil and beeswax, this haircreme allows any user to slick his hair back or mold it into any shape. I suspect this is what Elvis Presley used to concoct his "do."

I learned that the local stores stocking Brylcreem only carry the 4.5 oz size, and not the 2.5 travel size tubes. I learned that most online retailers who offered the prized tubes could not get a shipment to me until Monday at the earliest. The one retailed who offered an express option (at double the price) could only do so if the ordered by 11:00 a.m. Luckily I checked to see if they were on PST or EST. Turns out it was already 12:30 p.m. their time--too late to get anything out for a Friday delivery!

In the end, I found a supplier on Amazon who could ship directly to Hong Kong.

Whew! what a goose chase! I felt like a rat running a maze for 2.5 hours.

But it's nice to know that I can still get things done. It just meant other things (like my exercise), didn't get done. Choices. That's what it's all about. Yep, a little dab'll do ya.