The Truth about Truth and Lies

"Conversations with God" author, Neale Donald Walsch writes:

....that truth spoken is a gift given. Truth withheld is more than a gift denied, it is an arrow aimed at the heart.

It has been said that "the truth hurts," but the exact opposite is true. No truth is too hurtful, and no lie is harmless. Because every truth opens your heart to another, and every lie separates it.

Ever since I was small I struggled with the continuum of truth and lies. When does a truth become a lie? Is a "white lie" good or bad? Is the telling of only certain truths (and the omission of certain facts) the same as telling a lie? What happens if you know the truth will hurt someone? Do you withhold it?

If "no truth is too hurtful, and no lie is harmless," then does that mean I should share the truth as I see it, with everyone, all the time (i.e., not exercise restraint or judgment)?

Today I think that it is best to speak the truth when asked, even if it is hurtful. If it is not asked, then you do not have to say anything--unless it is the right thing to do. Be mindful, however, that HOW you say your truth can be hurtful. As Walsch says, "So speak your truth, but soothe your words with peace."